My love for writing began when I was constantly trying to please others. I'd forget about myself just to get a little attention. I became so withdrawn. I was drawn to writing after watching Carrie Bradshaw in Sex and the City. I realized I could create articles and get paid for them. But I needed to be "serious" and find a "real job," so I pursued a scientific career - a bachelor's, master's, and PhD in immunology. At each stage, I had to write articles and a thesis. But every time, my superiors discouraged me, saying that with my dyslexia, no one would understand me.
For a long time, I believed my dyslexia was holding me back from pursuing my passion for writing. I stopped writing. But I always kept a journal to express my emotions. It did me good. During my first year of my PhD, to break out of my shell, I decided to start a blog on Blogger. I didn't tell anyone about it. I wrote despite my spelling and grammar mistakes. I attracted over 1,000 people without knowing anything about SEO. People reached out to me, saying they saw themselves in my message. They saw beyond the syntax.
When I launched my coaching business, I faced the same problem. Many people criticized my spelling and syntax, and I withdrew into myself again. On Instagram, I received so many comments correcting my mistakes instead of understanding the content. I stopped posting and turned to blogging. In 4 years, over 20,000 people visited my site. I realized that I had let all those negative voices hold me back from my passion for writing.
Dyslexia doesn't define me, but it has helped push me in my life to get my PhD and to where I am now. I spent so much time internalizing people's criticisms and fears, not doing what I really love. Many creators, entrepreneurs, or artists are afraid to pursue their passion for fear of judgment. We internalize this voice out of fear of being seen and not being "enough" because every time we receive criticism, we become paralyzed. We self-sabotage because of people who aren't able to follow their own intuition.
In reality, our blocks and negative thoughts often internalize other people's fears and what we think of ourselves. I stopped writing and sharing what I really wanted out of fear and waiting for external validation. But this external validation will never come because it has to come from within. I understood that. The goal when writing isn't to please everyone but to reach your dream audience.
How to overcome fear?
Origin
Confront your fear head-on. Uncover its roots. Writing transcends mere articles or books - it's about crafting posts, video scripts, and sharing your unique voice. I once built walls around myself, chasing an illusion of perfection. My need for control paralyzed me into inaction. You must excavate the origin of your fear. Ask yourself "why" relentlessly.
Let me share a powerful example. A client of mine, a spiritual coach, was terrified of discussing her soul experiences. She feared being labeled "too spiritual" or even "crazy." Conformity seemed safer, more "professional." But the moment she embraced her authentic self? She ignited 8 sales in just 48 hours.
Your fears often have deep roots in childhood, triggered by present-day situations that feel threatening. Here's the crucial insight: Your brain can't distinguish between real and perceived danger. By relentlessly questioning and understanding your "why," you reclaim your power. This is how you break free and passionately pursue what truly matters to you.
Feeling safe
Once you've understood why you self-sabotage, you procrastinate on what you really want. You need to feel safe. The best way is to reconnect with your feminine energy. Masculine energy is often solicited to be in action, control, strategy, and performance. We often feel that when we launch a business or develop a passion, we must be immediately successful because we're addicted to instant results. We don't take pleasure in seeing ourselves evolve. By reconnecting with our feminine energy, I work with my clients to connect with their inner child using my positive affirmation cards to let go of control and follow their intuition.
We have this false sense of security suggested by social media to have money instead of focusing on wealth.
Self-compassion
Embrace self-compassion with fierce determination.
It's not just about self-acceptance - it's about nurturing unwavering compassion for your journey as a beginner. Persist relentlessly, even when results seem distant.
Forget the myth of instant business strategies. Reject the pressure to know everything immediately. We're fed the lie that we must be all-knowing, but the truth? We're all students, learning and growing every single day.
Our education system molds us into self-critics and overachievers. But here's the raw truth: Building a business is a marathon, not a sprint. Creating a book isn't like Amazon Prime - it's a labor of love and time.
Break free from the shackles of competition. Instead, commit to daily action and unshakeable self-belief. I promise you this: Your project can and will succeed. While many strategies can work, your path to success is uniquely yours. Discover it. Own it.
If you're still reading this, and you have a particularity, don't listen to the people around you because they're projecting their fears onto you. You have the right to pursue your projects, regardless of what others think. Many people silence themselves by underestimating their abilities when you're full of talent, whether it's painting, drawing, writing, or launching your own business - you have the right. Use your difference to make it a strength instead of diminishing yourself to fit into a box that was never made for you.
My mood of the week :
My mission this week: immerse myself in painting. I'm drawn to the canvas because it's my sanctuary, a place where stress melts away and creativity flourishes. Though I'm a novice, each stroke is an exhilarating experiment. When I paint, I enter my own world - a safe haven where I'm free to express, explore, and simply be. This artistic journey is more than a hobby; it's a form of self-discovery and liberation.
My other goal of the week is to go to the gym
This month, I'm reclaiming my health and reconnecting with my body. Despite recent emotional challenges, I'm committed to pushing forward. The gym isn't just a place to exercise - it's my sanctuary, my fortress of strength.
I acknowledge the hardest part is taking that first step. But I'm ready to leap. My focus is shifting decisively towards holistic health. This isn't just about losing weight; it's about forging a stronger connection with my body, nurturing my mental wellbeing, and building resilience.
Each workout is a statement of self-love, a step towards the version of me I'm determined to become. The emotional hurdles of the past month have only fueled my resolve. Now, I'm channeling that energy into positive change.
This journey isn't just about physical transformation - it's about reclaiming my power, one rep at a time. I'm not just starting a fitness routine; I'm embarking on a journey of self-discovery and empowerment. Watch me rise, stronger and more determined than ever.
Thanks so much for taking the time to read. Tell me, what 'flaw' or unique trait have you been hiding that could actually be your greatest strength in business or creativity?
"The goal when writing isn't to please everyone but to reach your dream audience." This! Thank you for taking the time to craft this post! You are an inspiration! I am struggling with fear paralysis around sharing my writing. I loved your powerful examples!