Becoming the person we wish to be requires us to say goodbye to the person we are. We feel abandoned for this person we want to leave behind, even if we are in an uncomfortable position. Most people prefer to stay in an uncomfortable but familiar place rather than an unknown but happier one. But what if becoming the person you truly want to be is what you need to do to create the business of your dreams? What if saying goodbye to this person you are, keeping all the positives and forgiving yourself for things you think are wrong, would allow you to stop being a people pleaser and say goodbye to the perfect girl syndrome? Giving yourself permission to be yourself by daring to be yourself.
Becoming "her" is a trendy concept that often boils down to losing weight, but in reality, you could transform it into something deeper to reinvent yourself personally and professionally. I realized that I was getting bored with my content, especially on Instagram. For 3 weeks, I've hardly been posting on TikTok or Instagram. At first, I thought it was because of the heat (it's super hot in Paris), but in reality, I'm bored on these platforms, and I'm diluting what I really want to say. I'm diluting my vision for fear of being judged. Whereas on Substack and my podcast, I'm more myself.
I realized that I was refusing to talk about certain subjects because I told myself that there are already other people doing it or that I'm not legitimate. But I am legitimate through my story, failures, and subjects. I think that in 2024, just saying that we have I don't know how many clients or turnover is not enough to sell or create a community. I see it clearly with the people I follow; I'm more interested in the journey or how they reach a goal rather than knowing they made a million in a week.
I need to work on my identity to become "her," to create the life I deserve and allow myself to be myself. We talk a lot about strategy when developing a business but little about mindset. But most of the time, you have the strategies, but you're blocked by fear:
Fear of selling
Fear of being seen
Fear of failure
Fear of rejection
Fear of the unknown
You need to face these fears to embrace your transformation to attract your dream clients; it's beyond strategies because let's be honest, all strategies work. Many people prefer to go from strategy to strategy, complaining that it doesn't work instead of focusing on a single strategy, stopping trying to please everyone instead of pleasing themselves to attract their heart community. We spend so much time trying to please others that we forget and abandon ourselves at the same time.
Becoming "her" is taking control, putting your needs and desires first to take care of your inner child to rediscover the joy and innocence that characterize us. I'm sure that by doing this, I'll rediscover the fun of creating content. Yes, it should be very fun while providing value for my dream client.
I decided to challenge myself during September to become "her" where I will test and experiment as I did in my research laboratory. I will share the steps of this adventure with you. Furthermore, I've already started, but I'm going to spread it to these other platforms. A 90-day transformation I'm calling "The 'Her' Project." It's not about becoming someone else; it's about becoming the truest version of myself. And I'm inviting you along for the ride.
Becoming her and being is more than a perfect morning routine or weight loss challenge. For me, it's to work on your identity, your mindset, and your body, it's to allow yourself to be your own truth despite our fear. It's to stop self-abandonment for others or algorithms to be yourself and express your vision, your process to help your dream people because you are here to build something more than just make money. You're here to create an international impact, transform lives by your story and your own methodology, and create your own legacy. You need to be your own truth.
My mood of the week :
I've had an epiphany lately - I love to write. For years, I struggled to articulate my inner turmoil, but I've discovered that writing is my personal therapy. In our quest for an extraordinary life, we often overlook the simple joys, like the ability to write freely on a computer or in a journal, even if no one else reads it. It's a privilege we sometimes take for granted.
As I embrace this realization, I'm committed to expressing myself fully, acknowledging that writing has always been a dormant passion. When I let go of the need for the perfect framework, words flow effortlessly from my fingertips, like a river finding its natural course.
Reflecting on my teenage years, I remember penning lyrics and dreaming of authoring a book. Now, as I sit here writing, my inner child is dancing with joy. We've achieved one of our long-held dreams. By shifting focus from quantity to quality, I've liberated myself from the pressure of chasing followers or monetization. It's about the art, not the metrics.
With the recent drop in temperature, I've found my creative spark reignited. Am I the only one who struggles to think clearly in sweltering heat? Finally, I've been able to create content for Instagram again. I've realized I was overcomplicating things. My genuine desire is simply to share my knowledge and experiences.
As I write these lines, a smile plays on my lips. The ability to express oneself after years of keeping everything bottled up is incredibly liberating. The beginning of August was challenging; I felt lost, still trapped in the pursuit of perfection. In reality, I was imprisoning and sabotaging myself.
Personal growth and self-discovery aren't about achieving perfection. They're about giving yourself permission to experiment, learn from failures, and practice self-compassion. It's a journey of evolution, of becoming comfortable with the uncomfortable.
So here's to embracing imperfection, to letting our words flow freely, and to rediscovering the passions that make our inner child dance. May we all find the courage to express our authentic selves, one word at a time.
Thank you for taking the time to read my work, if you want to support my work :
True. We can’t be “everything to everyone “ and we shouldn’t!
Becoming a new person with a stable immer identity is a journey, it can be very painful or less painful transformation, slow or faster.
omg im sooo here for Project Her!!!!